Shouldn't we at least be asking whether the transcending of venereal desire that marriage requires of a mostly or entirely 'heterosexual' man who marries for the sake of love, friendship, and raising a family isn't more or less the same as the transcendence required of a man whose venereal desire is 'oriented' mostly or entirely toward men but who restrains these drives, and who marries for the sake of love, friendship and raising a family? Of course, men with little venereal desire for women can't proceed towards marriage driven by such desire. For them, marriage must develop from friendship. But wouldn't it be better if all marriages developed from friendship? . Jonathan Mills
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The relationship between two men or two women is no different. Sometimes, sexual attraction between two people can be what makes them come together. However, most of the time, sexual attraction is not the only factor that draws two people together. With regards to marriage between a man and a woman, it is important to think of the process as a whole.

Marriage should be the culmination of a series of events that took place a long time before they met. These events must have been decided upon by the couple from childhood and they both prepared for it. For instance, there is no reason why one person cannot have a friend of the same sex as his wife or husband.

In this situation, it is important to remember that they are married to each other for life and that their love will sustain them through all sorts of challenges. It is also important to remember that love for one another will develop over time and it will only get stronger as time goes on. People with little desire for women or men can still choose to marry each other out of love for a friend or a family member and still end up with a happy marriage.

Source: Love, Covenant & Meaning

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